Saturday, January 9, 2010

Family Issues

This is a photo of my ex-mother-in-law, Betty. I took it last summer in Portland, where she is living with the rest of my family. She turned 95 a few weeks ago. Now she is on her death bed. This is one of the hardest things about living in Mexico, family issues. When people write to me about coming here to live, their first concern is being so far away from the people they love. I feel lucky that I was able to see Betty a few months ago. I am sorry that I am not there now to help everyone out. Betty has been very well loved. She has had a good, long life. But there is always grief at the loss of a loved one, even someone 95 years old. I know death is natural and will come to all of us. That knowledge doesn't stop it from hurting those who are left behind. Nothing stays the same. Life is constantly in flux. People come into our lives and then they are gone. All we can do is be as loving as we can with those around us, sharing our limited days.

10 comments:

  1. Dear Patricia,
    I'm sorry to see that your family is going through such a difficult time. I know it is hard for you to be so far away.
    Thoughts and prayers for Betty and all of you.
    Karen

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  2. Hi Karen, Thank you for your good wishes. They are greatly appreciated. Patricia

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  3. Nothing stays the same. You are so right and knowing it helps a little with whatever comes our way. 95 years old,so much she must have experienced and survived and then to have those who love her, near, towards the end. She has been blessed as have you all for having known her. Praying for you and family. Peace. Sylvie

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  4. Praying for your mother-in-law and you all. She must be a great lady, what a smile. Peace. Sylvie

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  5. Hi Sylvie, Thank you so much for sending your loving thoughts and prayers to me and my family. Patricia

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  6. Pat -- so sorry to hear aout your mother-in-law. I know it is difficult, as Greg's sister (age 74) unexpectedly died on December 18th. So much pain for the family, but you are right -- life goes on, changes, constantly in flux. Good thoughts going out to you -- have really been enjoying your lake and people pictures. Please don't stop taking sunset and lake pictures, as those of us that can't be there really miss those views. Peace and love, Jennifer Zeck

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  7. Thank you Jennifer. I am surprised that several people have responded to my posting about Betty. We have all suffered the loss of loved ones and the responses come from compassion and understanding. I know that dying is natural but that doesn't make it any less sad for others. I really appreciate your concern. Patricia

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  8. Does anyone out there know what this message means? Someone sent it to me today. Patricia

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  9. Well ... I am fairly fluent in Spanish, French, Brazilian(Portuguese), and... surprise! Japanese and ... Ill tell ya: delete this! It's just pornspam.... not even all the kanji characters are accurate! Do not open! (The terms: EYE CANDY might be a lead....

    God but it's pitiful that me, a woman of letters & of age (50+), has to save the MEXICO BLOGWORLD of this stuff! And to think I didn't know the definition of 'Blog' until a few short months ago..!!

    Take care & stay warm.

    Nihongo o benkyo shimasu!

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