Friday, December 28, 2012

The "Healers"

I do my best not to write anything negative on my blog. Every time I have done that, it has come back to bite me.  But today I am so angry that I could spit. So here goes my story of this afternoon.

I had to go to Chapala for my blood tests. A very handsome man about my age got on the bus and sat next to me. He said he had only been here for two months and he asked me where Mirasol was located. I thought, this is promising. Handsome man, sitting next to me, wanting directions.   I said, I will let you know when we get to your stop. I was feeling very important to be able to help him.

Now I KNOW where Mirasol is located. I have house sat there twice. But he started getting me so upset that I became totally disoriented. Either I missed his stop or took him past it. I don't know which.  I was too confused. I told him to get off the bus and ask someone else..... I hope I made him walk for many many blocks.

This is the crux of our conversation while he was sitting next to me. He said, I am a healer and I am going to help a woman in Mirasol.

Wow, handsome AND a healer. How lucky could I get? So I said, I am having my thyroid removed on the third.  He then launched into this horror story of a woman friend who had her thyroid removed. It was cancerous. A few weeks after it was removed she went to a different doctor and he said to her, Who butchered you?

The cancer at that point had spread throughout her entire body and within a few more weeks she was dead.

I said, Why are you telling me this? I don't want to hear this.

He said, Oh, I just wanted to tell you to ask questions. Get on the internet.  Ask questions.

Did he think I was an idiot who would NOT ask questions? I ask questions about this problem night and day. I even ask questions in my sleep....... All of a sudden this handsome man had become very ugly to me.  How could he tell me these things in good conscience? What was he THINKING?

I was so angry I didn't even know where we were in relationship to Mirasol. And so I told him to get off the bus and ask someone at the local store for directions.

I have another similar story of a retired nurse for an Orthopedic Surgeon who came to my casita right after I got home from the hospital for my broken ankle.  I didn't even know her. She was a friend of a friend and she too started telling me horror stories. She said, You will NEVER walk normally again. You will have to either buy a car or a moped to get around. You will have pain the rest of your life. She went on like this for half an hour. I never saw that woman again. I never want to see her again.

I feel the same way about this other so called "healer".  Isn't there something for healers that warns, DO NO HARM???   I have to tell you that when you start reciting all the terrible things that can happen to a person who is having surgery or who recently had surgery, that is doing a great deal of harm.......

Okay, so I got it off my chest.  I think I will go out with friends this evening and have a few drinks......Who knows, it may be my last chance before I die of Cancer......

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  1. Thank you Norm. I hope you are right. P

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  2. Pat you are going to be just fine. It is hard when all these "joyful" people are telling you stories about gloom and doom.
    Enjoy the weather where you are as here in Canada we had a record snowfall of 14" in one day and that was on top of freezing rain. What a mess to drive.... P.

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    1. Hi P, Thank you for your encouragement. I have been very bummed out today after that conversation.... Wish I could send you up some of this sunshine. P

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  3. Oh I, too, have run into people like this. I am finally at the place where when they start in I hold up my hand in the STOP! position and interrupt them, saying,"Why in the world do you choose to be one of those people? The ones who spread doom? What an awful thing to be!" And that usually silences them right there. If not, I do. I simply interrupt again and tell them to be quiet, I have no interest in hearing their gloom. If need be I move away.

    I know it rattles you, it would anyone. Yet shake it off the quickest you can, and realize he was most likely scamming for a new "client". Sheesh. It was good he showed his true colors right away. Saved you from possible further contact with such a person.

    And yes, you'll be just fine. Face the direction you want to go.

    Barbara

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    1. Hi Barbara, Thank you for writing and for your advice. Next time that happens to me, I will do just that. I never thought that he might have been looking for a new client.... What a man..... Happy New Year to you. P

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  4. I've been reading your blog for some time now and wanted to comment on a previous post but didn't. I will now say this. Please put your faith in God alone. You have done the research and seem to make good decisions regarding your health. Do not go into the operating room with fear and doubt. Remain confident in God and his love for you. Do not entertain evil reports from strangers with evil messages. You will live and not die. God is good and faithful. Pray for strength and God's healing power. Pray for the medical team and all those participating in your recovery and care. I hope you then find peace and rest.

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    1. Thank you so much for those wonderful and encouraging words. P

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  5. Hi Pat

    We met the same creep while we were there in Nov
    He was quite unsettling to say the least
    I like Barb's idea
    Next time I come across someone as offensive as him I'll tell him to take a hike :-)

    All the best with your upcoming surgery

    Collette

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    1. Hi Collette, Thank you for your comment and good wishes for me. Strange that you know the man I encountered. He must have also made a bad impression on you too..... I hope I never see him again. P

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  6. A bad impression is putting it lightly
    I won;t go into it on your blog
    but he def is a horrible person

    Thinking of you tomorrow

    All the best

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    1. Thank you for that feedback. I thought that maybe I overreacted to him. But from your comment, I realize I didn't Thanks P

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    2. Pat, I have went through this with my wife and her heart surgery, the ramifications, the doubt, etc. Some people do not realize they cause concern, some do and are cruel. Do not give up on humanity, there are good honest and supportive people out there. I have read your blog for sometime and someday would love to live in Ajijic but alas, with my wife's health issues, that is not currently an option. Maybe someday we will meet on the malecon. Doc

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    3. Hi Doc, Thank you for the kind e mail. Fortunately I have not seen that man again.... He scared me for no reason..... Everyone else was very nice to me. Thanks for writing. p

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  7. A few years back when I owned a landscape company on the west coast of Florida I had a 400 pound piece of precast concrete drop on my left foot from about 3 1/2 feet. It broke the metatarsal behind the big toe in five places and the next two metatarsals were each broken in one place. I was lucky enough to get a good doctor. I heard horror stories and it forever to heal, but it actually healed with an arch, I'm flat footed. No residual pain whatsoever.

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    1. Hi Tim, That story had a happy ending. Good for you. Thanks for writing. p

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