Monday, August 26, 2013

Morning Thoughts-----Home and Love


Tomorrow I go home. Home. That word contains so many meanings. A sense of place, of belonging. Feeling comfortable. Feeling loved.

 It has been a very long and interesting summer for me.

My son and daughter-in-law took me out to an Indian meal last night. A good bye meal and a preparation meal for their upcoming trip. I am returning in November to dog sit while they make another two week whirlwind trip to India.

We talked about all the things we did while I was up here; boat rides, dinners out, swimming, movies, more things than I do in a year in Mexico. But the most important part is the love. Nothing outshines that.

 In Mexico, I have the love of my friends and Chico. Here, I have the love of my son and daughter-in-law and their two dogs. I also have a few friends up here. I thoroughly enjoyed our lunches out and the meeting at Walter Mitty's.  I am a blessed and wealthy woman....... Maybe I have TWO homes now. 

I hope that my ex husband has finally found his home. It is a tragedy that he was unable to feel the love in this world. Love is all around us. We just have to open our hearts to it. TO BE LOVED, LOVE. Love is used as a verb in the previous sentence. It is an active word......


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  1. You said what you believe is a 'given'. We just have to open our hearts to it. TO BE LOVED, LOVE.
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    I have often thought of that expression which I have heard many times.
    I don't believe that is true at all…if your husband hadn't found love and you GAVE him love and he rejected it, that mocks the above expression: "to be loved, love."
    You are a giver of love and he didn't react to your belief.

    I have thought about this often and concluded that the makings of a person, any person, their particular personality they were born with, has to do whether a person can receive 'your' version of love. If that person is a receiver, they will receive your love and return it. Some people are simply NOT receivers and nothing is going to change them. They are incapable of receiving what you are offering. Their world is their own, just like your world of 'giving' is your own.

    Think about it and see if it doesn't make sense to you. We're not talking about abused people being unable to receive, we are talking about people's born-with personality traits that makes them actually incapable of feeling the love you are giving. So, you are beating your head against the wall trying to make him 'see' what he is missing. To him, he is missing nothing. He views things HIS way, not your's. -smile- Have a nice day.

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    1. Hi Francey, Thank you for commenting. Food for thought. Thanks, P

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    2. Maybe I should have added: If your love is not accepted or returned, love anyway....

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  2. Have a safe trip home Patricia. I look forward to hearing your thoughts about being back in Mexico, with Chico, and you family there.

    And as always - seeing the beautiful photos you post of Mexico!

    Barbara

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  3. Safe travels, I am sure it will be good to be home again, especially after such a long day in planes and terminals...

    I am also betting Chico will be glad to have you back home also!

    Tammy

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    1. Thank you Tammy. I appreciate your good wishes. P

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  4. I'm so sorry we didn't get to meetup...a day late and dollar short for me! I believe things happen for a reason so maybe next time you are here in November we can find a time to meetup then. Yes Portland Oregon is a busy fastpaced environment and the work climate here is grueling and totally not dependable! At least so far as my experience has been. This is why I'm planning to retire and get the heck outta dodge as fast as I can! I am looking now for real estate to rent which is crazy cause I can't move there until a few years yet! Shoot I don't even know if it's the place for me but for some reason I believe it is..... Crazy really! I just lost a very dear friend over the weekend, so I'm reminded by her that I must live my dreams and not hold off for tomorrow. If I could figure out a way to live there now I would do it. The soonest I can possibly make a move there would be when I turn 62 after next May 2014 so if the right house comes up at the right price I'm going for it! It will be tight for me but you know what it's tight for me now, in and out of work all the time so why not live in a place where money won't matter so much and one can live on way less than here? You are inspiring me so much you have no idea! I get giddy thinking about moving there. So keep posting and sharing with us, it's such a ray of hope! Best to you and can't wait to hear about your reunion with Chico!
    Pam

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    1. HI Pam, Thanks for writing. I am so glad to be back and with Chico again. Follow your dreams. Hope to see you down here soon. Or maybe in Portland in November? P

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  5. Wow, Pat! Sounds like your son and daughter-in-law have an interesting life as well. You taught him the love of travel!! What do they do in India? Safe travels to you. Be in touch soon.

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    1. Hi Lorrie, Thanks for writing. Yes, they have very interesting lives. In India they like to see the spiritual sites. P

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  6. Pat, I know you're thrilled to be back. Also, Pam, I'd love to email you sometime since, while I was reading your post, just for a minute I thought I was he writing it!!! Can't afford to just get by here in Pennsylvania (and really why would I want to??). Same here, can't make a move until I turn 62 in 2016 but I plan on coming back to Ajijic every year in between. My email address is lorryan2005@aol.com if you'd like to correspond. So glad Pat started this blog. Thanks for all you do, Pat!

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  7. Don't know if my comment went through but Pat, welcome back and Pam, I'd love to correspond since I too am in the same boat. Can't make a move til 62, three years away. My email address is lorryan2005@aol.com Many thanks to Pat for starting this blog and for all your wise words!

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  8. Thank you Lorrie for commenting and for reading my blog. P

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