Top photo is the view from Jim's deck. I went to the NLP class again today. It was nice to sit around talking with people. Usually I am on the move or sitting alone in my own place. I need to be a little bit more social.
Above are the changing rooms at the pool in Christiana Park. I take my own padlock. I don't know why I lock it. No one is around but me but it gives me peace of mind.
There are beautiful tall trees all around the pool. It was nice this morning because it was still cool from the overnight rain. The water temperature and the air temperature were almost the same. It makes getting in and out of the water very easy. Tomorrow a woman from the NLP group is going to meet me there and do laps with me.
Top photo is the view from Jim's deck. I went to the NLP class again today. It was nice to sit around talking with people. Usually I am on the move or sitting alone in my own place. I need to be a little bit more social.
Above are the changing rooms at the pool in Christiana Park. I take my own padlock. I don't know why I lock it. No one is around but me but it gives me peace of mind.
There are beautiful tall trees all around the pool. It was nice this morning because it was still cool from the overnight rain. The water temperature and the air temperature were almost the same. It makes getting in and out of the water very easy. Tomorrow a woman from the NLP group is going to meet me there and do laps with me.
Hi Patricia, I am curious about the NLP meeting today. Are there many people taking part? Would you care to share about what goes on at these gatherings? I would love to hear more!
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Hi Linda D. Thank you for writing and your interest in NLP. We do different things every week. Yesterday he had us write down five qualities we would like to have and then he asked us to think of a person who has these qualities. He had us all stand in a circle. There were ten of us. Then he asked for someone to go into the circle and do a process. He asked that person to tell everyone the qualities she wanted. Then to tell us someone she knows who has those qualities, could be anyone. As she described that admired person's behavior and way of standing and reacting to things he had her copy those ways. Then he had her step into that other person's character. Stepping into the mannerisms was a way of anchoring those things inside herself. Esch process took about half an hour. Very interesting stuff. This week I am going to look around for people I admire and try to figure out their mannerisms and try to emulate them for myself. Patricia
ReplyDeleteWow...what an interesting class. Thank you for sharing! It should be fun looking around for people you admire and figuring out their mannerisms and how to emulate them for yourself. I think I will try it myself! It is good food for thought (and action). Linda D.
ReplyDeleteHi Linda, I have to get my ego out of the way and admit that I admire someone instead of just being defensive and feeling inferior..... It is good practice. Patricia
ReplyDeleteMaybe I missed something earlier...what does NLP stand for?
ReplyDeleteThe idea of emulating someone you admire is actually a Biblical one, too. I think it was Paul who said, "Be imitators of us as we are imitators of Christ."
Patricia, I fully understand that feeling of being defensive and feeling inferior. Doesn't really help, does it?
Hi K-Sue, Thank you for continuing to write and comment. NLP stands for Neuro Linguistic Programing. Yes, you are right, feeling defensive and inferior only makes more walls. Patricia
ReplyDeleteHi again, interesting that this topic has come up at this time. I have felt defensive with a family member and built another wall. Sometimes I feel like I am in a pool of quicksand! Big egos abound in my family. Including me.
ReplyDeleteHi Linda, I wish I had some answers for you and for myself. My brother and I no longer speak to each other. Old wounds which have never healed. Relationships with family members seem to be the hardest to maintain and keep positive. My friend from AA says to pray everyday for the person you are having problems with and do it for two weeks straight. Pray for that person's happiness. I tried it with my brother. We still don't talk. All I can do is continue seeking answers for myself and try to be a good person in all my other relationships. Maybe one day things will change with my brother. Maybe not. But I can't live with constant guilt over a lost relationship with a family member. The world has to become my family. Patricia
ReplyDeleteHi, you and I seem to have several things in common. I bet some of your other readers have experienced some of the things mentioned in these comments too. Maybe someone will comment. We can all learn from each other and one never knows how much the words they speak can help another person. At the very least we realize we are not alone in our difficult times.
ReplyDeleteIt seems strange to me that we can have great relationships with our friends but often have struggles with family. I wish it was the other way around!
Have a good night, Linda
Hi Linda, Yes, I feel the same way. Maybe it is so hard with family because they know us too well and bring out our worst qualities. There is a deep sadness inside of me because of my brother and I know that I can never change things. I tried all my life and never could..... I know how you feel but I also know that compassion from me doesn't take away your pain. Patricia
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